Dating and Books

Dating and Books

In case everyone is getting sick of NaNoWriMo posts, back to my regular sort of post! My friend, Sherilyn, who is also a writer, made a great analogy the other day between being an author and dating. I’ll get to that after I fill you in on some background. I called her because I’ve been struggling with feelings that I’m not used to.  I haven’t had a relationship in a year now and it’s been several months since I went on a date. I kind of gave up after much frustration and disappointment.  I tried Internet dating, but it doesn’t work well for me.  From this blog, from my videos, and from my books, you might think that I’m very articulate and well put together.  I manage communication a lot better through writing than face...

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Interview: Actress Teal Sherer

Interview: Actress Teal Sherer

I am so thrilled by what I have to share with you today!  My guest today is my girl-crush, a woman I admire very much.  I’m honored she spoke with me and answered some questions for the website.  Ms. Teal Sherer is an actress who has been appearing almost every where I look lately. BIO Raised in Lenoir City, Tennessee, Teal Sherer is an actress, producer and an activist for performers with disabilities. Teal became a paraplegic at the age of fourteen when she was involved in a car accident. With the support of family and friends and a great rehabilitation program she became fully independent in her wheelchair. She went to college at Oglethorpe University in Atlanta where she caught the acting bug. While there, Teal was cast in her first film, HBO’s Emmy...

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CONTEST

CONTEST

I am thrilled to announce that I will be running a contest for fan art based on (W)hole!  I know lots of my friends are artists, and even those who are not should try their hand at a creation. *** The prize? An autographed paperback copy of Breath(e), the sequel to (W)hole, when it comes out in January and I will ship it completely free to anywhere in the world. *** How to Enter: I want to see your interpretations of the characters in (W)hole and how you interacted with the book. 1) Make an image or a video that portrays a character, a scene, or some other aspect of my book. 2) Post it at DeviantArt, Flickr, or YouTube with the tag or title “RuthMadisonContest” 3) I will draw a random winner (and I will show the drawing on video) on January 15th, 2012...

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Blog Award

Blog Award

Francine Howarth of Romancing the Blog (what an awesome name is that?) awarded me the Versatile Blogger Award last week.  My first blog award 😀 Seven things about me Okay, let me think of some things that are not obvious about me from reading this website! 1) I get my exercise learning a classical Indian dance called bharat natyam 2) I’m the “black sheep” of a family that includes a molecular biologist, a flood zone specialist, and an IT guy. 3) I have an obsession with super long hair. Mine is hip length and I have every intention of growing it to knee length. 4) I love to knit.  I enjoy creating things in almost every sphere of my life. 5) I am a closet geek and I enjoy MMORPGs. I get together once a week with friends to watch Dr. Who and play...

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Where Does Devoteeism Come From?

Where Does Devoteeism Come From?

Short answer: no one knows.  And yet, people have put out theories based on their assumptions about what we are like.  There is almost no research in this area.  There has been ONE case study, and people continue to refer to it as the explanation for devness. People love explanations.  When something happens that is against what they see as the norm, they have to have a reason.  If there was abuse in your past, they will nod wisely and say that’s why you’re a devotee.  Even if the dev feeling started long before any abuse.  It goes back to people fearing what they don’t understand.  Attempts to understand it have been made by people who are not devs and they are looked to as experts.  As though we cannot speak for ourselves.  As though we have...

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Is Your Man Book Cover Worthy?

Is Your Man Book Cover Worthy?

I rewatched Romancing the Stone last weekend.  It’s a great movie for a romance writer!  (Although I liked the sequel, Jewel of the Nile, better).  A few weeks ago I talked about the Sarah Brown problem, where you preplan what you think the ideal man will be like and can’t see a perfect match for you right in front of your face. I think Joan Wilder has a slightly different, but related problem.  She compares all the men in her life to the heroes of her books.  They don’t measure up to her fantasy. Do you find yourself doing this?  Not necessarily with books you’ve written, but with books you read.  Do you hope or expect men in real life to behave like men in your favorite books?  Are books just pure fantasy to you or are they a goal to aim...

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