The Nature of Pornography

The Nature of Pornography

I can’t even imagine what sort of traffic I’m going to get with this title!¬†This is the biggest issue, though, in the uncomfortable relationship between people who have disabilities and people who have devoteeism. I have yet to ever hear of any case of a devotee harming a person with a disability in real life. ¬†As far as I know, there have been no reports of rapes or kidnappings or anything dangerous (and I think if something like that happened it would be HUGE news that we would all hear about, even so: one or two cases is the same rate as in general population, so could not be blamed on devness). ¬†The big complaint against devs is that we are using images for masturbation that were not intended to have a pornographic nature. I went looking for the...

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Dev Cycles

I’ve said before that some people find their devness is something that they must act out in real life and others are satisfied with disability in fantasy alone. There’s more to it than that, though. ¬†I know I experience cycles, and it seems from other devs that I speak to, that they do as well. There are “high dev” periods and “low dev” periods. ¬†The change between these two states does not seem to have any known trigger. It’s not connected to female cycles, it can be changed by any number of different kinds of moments or experiences or thoughts. There is no telling what will bring on a change in the dev state. During high dev, I know I become obsessive and exhibit behaviors common to addiction. ¬†Many people find this to...

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Disability and Devoteeism

Disability and Devoteeism

They are linked.  There will always be disability and there will always be devoteeism.  The relationship between the two could be beautifully symbiotic.  Right now, I think, most feel that it is parasidic and/or antagonistic. People who have disabilities often attack devs and call them sick freaks and perverts.  Devs with no outlet and no ability to talk about what they are in a safe environemnt, take images and videos without permission to use for their fantasy life.  Having been mostly denied a real life. To break this cycle I think we need to ask why are devotees thought of with such hatred or revulsion? Is the idea that someone could find paralyzed limbs erotic and beautiful disgusting to you?  What about the idea that someone could find long, tan legs...

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You Keep Using That Word

You Keep Using That Word

“You keep using that word. ¬†I do not think it means what you think it means.” Words mean different things to different groups of people. ¬†I’ve been noticing this more and more as I hang out on Twitter and other online places. ¬†Several times I’ve felt a weird mental double-take with unexpected words. Here are my examples, what are yours? Dev To me this is a short-hand for my sexuality, known (stupidly IMHO) as “devotee” or “devoteeism.” ¬†To the people at my work place and the geeky places I hang out online, this is short for “developer.” ¬†It makes me jump every time someone at work calls out, “Who has the dev copy?” Para To me and others in the disability rights field, this is short for...

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What do you look for in love?

What do you look for in love?

When you think of your current partner or your ideal future partner, what factors matter the most to you?  How has it changed over time? When I think about the man that I hope to meet someday, there are a few things I already expect from him.  The qualities of being slow-to-anger, patient, and compassionate are very important.  Physical appearance matters to some extent.  A passion and drive in life is important. I base this ideal-man on previous experiences dating, on books and movies, on the ideas that I got as a child. Yet, I am aware of the Guys and Dolls problem.  Sarah Brown thinks she knows exactly what her future husband will look like and act like and be like.  She can list it in tremendous detail.  Then life gets in the way and she falls in love with...

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The Thing About Twitter…

…is you never know who is listening. The Internet has the problem of¬†shielding¬†you from the people who are accessing the information you put out, so you don’t feel the same need to be kind and respectful that you would feel in real life. ¬†It’s good to remember that if you say something about a group of people, they see it. An exchange between two young men I follow on Twitter, one of whom is a good Internet friend… C: A search that led someone to my blog, “adults sex for disability people in wheelchair nude picture” – not sure they found what they wanted. T: You have never been approached by someone with a gimp fetish? That’s always fun. C: Unfortunately not? T: I should tell you a few stories sometime. C: Indeed....

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