In Praise of Wounded Hero Romance

I have a guest essay over at author Anne Holly’s blog!  I’m reading her book Strings Attached now. It’s quite good.

There is a side character who uses a wheelchair and she’s told me that she’s considering writing a romance just for him! I hope she does. I’ll be ready to tell you guys all about it if that happens.

Please stop by Anne’s blog and take a look at my essay, leave your comments, and enjoy! 😀

http://anneholly.blogspot.com

An excerpt from the essay…

No one seems to worry about the feelings of the men stereotyped in other genre romances. We read books with naked male torsos on the cover where you can’t even see the faces of these men. No one says that we’re being insensitive to these men. What makes disability different?

3 Comments

  1. Grant Riddle
    Jun 29, 2013

    Hello,

    To answer your question. Men and women have a different perspective on the subject of sexual attraction. Women look for romance and love, to be desired. Men look for conquest, to have the best looking female in the bunch. This is part of the selective process of propagating the species. But the nature of that selective process is dictated by the culture. Look around at the many various cultures that exist. They each have some cultural restrictions on sexual activity. But it is all aimed at propagating the species.

    So what makes the disabled individual stand apart? It is the mistaken perception that the person is not eligible to propagate. This was from biblical times! The disabled person was not able to provide for a family, be it man or woman. Modern society still works from that concept. But modern appliances negate the effect if disability.

    Disabled women have a secondary obstacle, social competition with other women for men’s attention. Discrimination or ostracism is used to eliminate the competition. As my grandmother would often recite, “Why would a ‘perfectly good man’ be interested in her?”

    The attitude prevails and is covertly applied. But when a woman finds interest in a disabled man, that takes her out of the competition for other men. That is acceptable! But if a man finds interest in a disabled woman, Heavens! He is taking advantage of her! Keep her safe! Isolate her. Women enforce that attitude.

    Any comments?

  2. Grant Riddle
    Jun 29, 2013

    Hello again,

    Sorry, after reading the post I realized I got carried away with the previous comment and strayed a bit from the original subject of the question.

    The view of a person with a disability engenders a sense of fear in the observer. This is somewhat a sense of “that could happen to me.” It takes a bit of familiarity before that reaction subsides. The previous comment still holds, but in today’s world we are presented with many disabled people doing everyday activities. Working with or socializing with those persons has lowered the impact of meeting someone on crutches, in a wheelchair, or using a prosthetic limb.

    Look at how those women who became amputees due to the bombing in Boston have become somewhat heroines in the media coverage. And look at Aimee Mullens, a DBK amputee, model, presenter, and international celebrity. Could she or someone like her be presented as the love interest in a book or movie? The French movie “Rust and Bone ” does just that. But the disability is acquired during the story, which removes the devness of the love affair. It is accomplished by CGI, but would they ever hire a real amputee woman?

    Comments??

  3. Grant Riddle
    Oct 2, 2013

    Hurray! A 2009 movie from Montreal, Canada, “Vital Signs,” has a real dbk amputee woman as the main character, nude love scenes and all. The actress won an award for the role. It is available as a dvd on Amazon, and on Netflix. In French with English subtitles. Look for it on IMDB for a trailer.

    Please report a review. Comments?

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