The Thing About Twitter…

…is you never know who is listening.

The Internet has the problem of shielding you from the people who are accessing the information you put out, so you don’t feel the same need to be kind and respectful that you would feel in real life.  It’s good to remember that if you say something about a group of people, they see it.

An exchange between two young men I follow on Twitter, one of whom is a good Internet friend…

C: A search that led someone to my blog, “adults sex for disability people in wheelchair nude picture” – not sure they found what they wanted.

T: You have never been approached by someone with a gimp fetish? That’s always fun.

C: Unfortunately not?

T: I should tell you a few stories sometime.

C: Indeed.

Me: he has… Me.

Me: be nice, you’re going to hurt my feelings 🙂

C: But ‘gimp fetish’ doesn’t really describe you, Ruth! You are too classy and respectful for that.

Me: thanks, C, that’s sweet. But I’m sorry to say that’s exactly what I have. :-/

T: I didn’t say it was bad, just fun. 😉


Could have been much worse, but seeing “gimp fetish” being talked about was like accidently overhearing someone talking about you behind your back, walking into a room to hear someone spreading a rumor about you.  It’s a rude shock and I could barely sleep all night from feeling uncomfortably exposed.

The irony to me is that this is someone who gets stereotyped all the time.  People with disabilities know all about being lumped into a broad category and having assumptions made about them.  Yet so many have no trouble doing the same thing to devotees.

People do have some bad experiences with devs and for that I am sorry.  But please remember that we’re human beings, each with our own beliefs, feelings, experiences, and choices.  Here is a video I made a couple weeks ago in response to someone making fun of the idea that being a dev is not easy:

YouTube video: Devoteeism, not fun and games


  1. J.L. Campbell
    Jul 31, 2011

    We tend to stereotype people so much, that we don’t even know when we’re doing it. 🙂

    • RuthMadison
      Aug 1, 2011

      Yes, it’s true. I advocate for always using care, for realizing that anything we’re going to say about any group of people is not about some statistic, it’s about human beings with feelings. Some find that to be too stifling, I guess. I try really hard to never be hurtful, but I also fail sometimes.

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