Unfortunate Shout Outs

It seems like every movie or book that has a love story with a disabled character has an obligatory sentence about those freaks who are attracted to disabled people.

It really annoys me.

It’s always a love story where the people “really” love each other, as though that’s different from how a devotee and a person with a disability could feel about each other. The guy (in my case) will complain that he can’t get a normal date. Of course there are these weird people out there who will date guys in wheelchairs because they like it, but who would want that? Thank goodness the heroine is a nice normal non-dev woman.

You know what? A lot of devs are reading and watching these stories. And it is painful when we’re going along, enjoying the fictional story, in what we think is a safe place, and all of a sudden the book has to reach out and punch us in the gut.

Really? Is that necessary?

We’re your readers. And you’re going to reach out and hurt us? Pull us out of the story to remind us that you think we’re monsters? We’re human beings. Treat us that way.


Here’s an example from my friend’s summary of a movie we recently watched…

Run If You Can

At one point during a very poignant scene between he and the girl he so desperately wants, he states that there are only three types of relationships a disabled guy can have:

There are girls that will go out a few times but it doesn’t last. They can’t deal with it.

There are the girls who actually like guys in wheelchairs and they are some very strange girls. (Pissed me off)

Then there are disabled girls. Convienient ones who will sit and hold your hand.




  1. Name
    Mar 29, 2012

    I’m guessing the authors are just devs that have not come to terms with themselves or just hate that part of their psyche.

    • RuthMadison
      Mar 29, 2012

      Oooo, I like that idea. Don’t know how true it is, but it makes it easier if I believe that.

  2. Celeste
    Mar 31, 2012

    As soon as I read the excerpt of this on the front page, I immediately knew that you would reference Run If You Can. When read that subtitle about us being strange girls, I kind of internally laughed though.

    They just don’t know what they’re missing!

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